Make Your Bed

Start Each Day with a Task Completed

The simple act of making your bed each morning is the cornerstone of McRaven's philosophy. It represents the completion of the first task of the day and sets a tone of accomplishment that can carry over into other activities. This small victory can encourage further achievements and provide a sense of pride, no matter how challenging the day ahead might be. It's a reminder that even in the face of overwhelming circumstances, you can start with something manageable and build from there. Moreover, if you have a terrible day, you will come home to a bed that is made—that you made—and a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better.

You Can't Go It Alone

In SEAL training, teamwork and mutual support are paramount. McRaven emphasizes the importance of finding someone to help you through life's challenges. This could be a friend, family member, or mentor—someone who can offer encouragement, support, and a different perspective when you're struggling. Shared hardship and collaborative effort can strengthen bonds and provide the resilience needed to overcome obstacles. Success is rarely a solitary endeavor, and having reliable support can make all the difference when facing adversity. Learn to rely on others and offer your support in return.

Life's Not Fair, Drive On!

Life is inherently unfair, and sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you may still fail. McRaven argues that you shouldn't let setbacks define you. Instead, learn from your failures, pick yourself up, and keep moving forward. Don't wallow in self-pity or blame others; accept responsibility for your actions and strive to do better next time. Resilience is built through overcoming adversity, and each failure is an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. The world doesn't owe you anything; your success depends on your ability to adapt and persevere.

Face Your Sharks

During SEAL training, recruits had to complete a swim through shark-infested waters. McRaven uses this as a metaphor for facing your fears head-on. Avoiding or ignoring your fears only gives them more power. Instead, confront them directly, no matter how daunting they may seem. Develop a strategy, prepare yourself mentally and physically, and take the plunge. Overcoming your fears will build confidence and demonstrate that you're capable of more than you thought possible. Fear is a natural human emotion, but it shouldn't paralyze you.

Don't Be Afraid of the Sugar Cookie

In SEAL training, individuals who didn't meet standards were sometimes labeled as 'sugar cookie' – forced to roll around in the sand until completely covered. This was a lesson in accepting unpleasant consequences without complaint. McRaven argues that life will inevitably present you with situations where you're unfairly punished or criticized. Don't waste your energy feeling sorry for yourself. Accept the situation, learn from it, and move on with dignity and grace. Complaining will only make you feel worse and won't change the outcome. Focus on what you can control and let go of what you can't.

Don't Be Afraid to Be a Great SEAL

McRaven recounts a story about a SEAL trainee who, despite being smaller than others, consistently demonstrated exceptional determination and courage. This individual inspired others and proved that size isn't everything. Similarly, you don't need to be the smartest, strongest, or most talented person to make a difference. What matters most is your heart, your work ethic, and your willingness to push yourself beyond your limits. Never underestimate your potential, and never let anyone tell you that you're not good enough.

Sing in the Dark Moments

McRaven learned the importance of singing while rowing in formation. Despite the absurdity, it instilled teamwork and lifted spirits. This illustrates the importance of finding moments of levity even in the toughest circumstances. A positive attitude and a sense of humor can help you cope with stress, build camaraderie, and maintain morale. Don't take yourself too seriously, and find ways to inject joy and laughter into your daily life. A little bit of fun can go a long way in overcoming challenges.

Don't Ever, Ever Ring the Bell

Ringing the bell in SEAL training meant quitting. McRaven stresses the importance of never giving up, even when things get incredibly difficult. There will be times when you feel overwhelmed and tempted to quit, but it's during these moments that your true character is revealed. Dig deep, find your inner strength, and keep pushing forward. Perseverance is often the key to success, and the rewards for never giving up are immeasurable. Don't let temporary setbacks derail you from your long-term goals.