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She Comes First
Ian Kerner
Apple Books
32 Min Reading Time
Audio Version Available
About this book
Unlock the secrets to extraordinary intimacy and transform your sex life with She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. Dr. Ian Kerner, a renowned sex therapist, offers a revolutionary approach to female pleasure, prioritizing her orgasm as the key to deeper connection and satisfaction for both partners.
Debunking myths and offering proven techniques, this comprehensive guide delves into the art of cunnilingus and beyond. Discover a treasure trove of practical advice, anatomical insights, and illustrated positions designed to maximize female arousal and satisfaction.
More than just a how-to manual, She Comes First encourages open communication, mutual exploration, and a deeper understanding of female sexuality. Whether you're a seasoned lover or new to the world of intimacy, this book provides the knowledge and confidence to create unforgettable experiences and cultivate a more passionate and fulfilling relationship.
Fun, informative, and empowering, She Comes First is your roadmap to becoming a confident and skilled lover, ensuring pleasure for her and a more connected and satisfying sex life for you.
Summary of Key Ideas
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Female Orgasm as the Focal Point
Prioritizing female pleasure, particularly through cunnilingus, is the central theme. The book challenges traditional, male-centered approaches to sex, advocating for a shift in focus towards understanding and satisfying women's sexual needs. Kerner argues that by prioritizing the woman's orgasm, men can enhance the overall sexual experience for both partners, leading to greater intimacy and satisfaction.
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Mastering the Art of Cunnilingus
The book emphasizes that skilled cunnilingus is a key component of satisfying female sexuality. Kerner provides detailed guidance and techniques for performing oral sex effectively, stressing the importance of understanding female anatomy, preferences, and arousal patterns. It debunks myths and offers practical advice to improve technique and increase the likelihood of female orgasm.
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The Importance of Communication
Open and honest communication between partners is vital for sexual satisfaction. The book encourages couples to discuss their desires, fantasies, and boundaries openly. Kerner stresses the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel comfortable expressing their needs and exploring their sexuality without judgment.
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Beyond Intercourse: A Broader Sexual Repertoire
The book challenges the misconception that intercourse should be the primary focus of sexual activity. Kerner argues that focusing solely on intercourse often neglects the woman's needs and can lead to dissatisfaction. He advocates for a more balanced approach that includes a variety of sexual activities, with a strong emphasis on foreplay and oral sex.
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Understanding Female Sexual Anatomy
Understanding female anatomy and sexual response is essential for providing satisfying sexual experiences. The book provides detailed information about the clitoris, vagina, and other erogenous zones, as well as the physiological and psychological aspects of female arousal and orgasm. This knowledge empowers men to become more attuned to their partner's needs and preferences.
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Mutual Satisfaction and Enhanced Intimacy
She Comes First promotes a philosophy of mutual pleasure and satisfaction in the bedroom. Kerner emphasizes that when a woman's needs are met, the man's sexual experience is also enhanced. This approach fosters a sense of connection, intimacy, and equality within the relationship, leading to a more fulfilling sex life for both partners.
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Debunking Myths About Female Sexuality
The book actively dispels harmful myths and misconceptions surrounding female sexuality and orgasm. Kerner debunks the idea that women should always orgasm from intercourse alone, addressing the societal pressures and misinformation that can hinder sexual satisfaction. By promoting accurate information, the book aims to empower both men and women to embrace a more open and informed approach to sex.
Chapter Recap
About The Author
Ian Kerner
Main Quotes
"For any woman to be completely fulfilled sexually, she needs to know that her emotional needs are being met."
"The clitoris is devoted solely to pleasure and confers upon the female 'an infinitely greater capacity for sexual response than a man ever dreamed of.'"
"A man who is confident in pleasuring a woman is also likely to be more secure in other aspects of his life."
"The most important sex organ is the brain."
"Oral sex is not just a prelude to intercourse, but a main course in itself."
"The goal is not just to bring her to orgasm, but to create a shared experience of pleasure and intimacy."
"A woman's sexuality is complex and multifaceted, and it's important to approach it with sensitivity and respect."
"Communication is key to understanding a woman's needs and desires in the bedroom."
"Experimentation and exploration are essential for discovering what brings a woman the most pleasure."
"True intimacy comes from a willingness to be vulnerable and open with your partner."
Who Should Read This Book
Heterosexual men seeking to improve their skills in pleasuring women
Women who want their male partners to better understand their needs and desires
People in committed relationships looking to enhance their intimacy and sexual satisfaction
Readers of self-help books focused on relationships and sexuality
Individuals interested in learning more about female anatomy and sexual response
Couples who want to explore new techniques and improve communication in the bedroom
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